How Not to Kill

Ever feel like you just can't take it anymore? Have you reached your limit with your spouse, your kids, or your coworkers? You are not alone. Discover true stories that will keep you laughing and give you the tools you need to transform your most difficult relationships. Backed by decades of research and clinical experience, Dr. Nealy Brown has provided thousands of people across the globe with life-changing truths to help them succeed with even the most challenging people in their lives.

Restore your marriage even after your spouse has walked out.
Heal that relationship with your teenager who's slipping away.
Revive your work life in the job you dread to face each day.
Strengthen your healthy relationships even further.

"Out of all the relationship books I've read, this one's at the top of my list! The first book I would recommend to anyone. It's funny, inspiring, with incredibly powerful ideas." - Dr. Mike Nichols

"The principles in this book have literally changed my life, and given me practical tools for every relationship. I am confident it can do the same for you, wherever you are on your journey." - Melissa Drobnak

"This book gives hope to the hopeless relationship. Each chapter gets straight to the heart of relationship issues and provides the know how to make change happen." - Chelsea Wells

Dr. Nealy Pardee Brown has spent over 15 years working with difficult relationships, as a counselor, speaker, professor, and chaplain in the US Air Force Reserve. She is a licensed as a counselor and supervisor, has a MA in Counseling and PhD in Psychology, and serves as the Discipline Chair for Psychology and Sociology at Azusa Pacific Online University. But, her favorite roles are wife and mother.

Sarah Tierney is a licensed professional counselor with a MA in Counseling. She enjoys teaching, counseling, writing, and blogging at www.lovetoolbox.blogspot.com. Sarah is loving life with her husband and daughter in Illinois.

Shannon Hunt has a MA in Counseling and has served as a counselor, life coach, crisis interventionist, and professor. Shannon has been blessed with a wonderful husband, partner, and best friend in life. Having been married for over 15 years, they celebrate each day with their two children.
*A portion of the proceeds from this book will be donated to charity

Chapter excerpt:
Plan B, C, . . .or Z!
If I want it, I'm responsible for it.

He was a big executive in the company and worked all the time. Quality time was extremely important to her, but she could not cajole this man into committing to a date night.
She told me, "I've tried everything!" and I said, "Well, tell what you've tried, because it's helpful to know both what works and what does not work." So she listed off all the many occasions that she had asked him, at different times and in different ways (because it's not only important what you say and how you say it, but also when you say it). After we made a long list, I turned to her and said, "You've only tried one thing." I actually thought she might smack me: "What do you mean I've only tried one thing?!"
I said, "You've tried this one thing in a lot of really creative ways...but it seems to me that all you've ever done is talk about it with him. Sounds like talking doesn't work."
No matter how she tried to have that conversation-and she had devised a number of creative, kind, and respectful ways to have it-he still would not commit. Plan A had failed, so we devised Plan B...