The Memory of Places

Table of Contents Introduction .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11 The Systemic Constellation Methodology.. . . . . 15 The Constellation Process.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16 Clarifying the Issue.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16 The Constellation Process. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17 The Role of the Representative.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18 Constellations and Their Effects.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19 The Phenomenological Approach.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20 The Ideal Spatial Setting for a Constellation.. . . . . 21 A Wide Range of Diverse Layers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23 Places, Spaces, Buildings.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 Finding the Right Place.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30 Why Don't I feel at Home Anywhere? .. . . . . . . . . . 30 I'm Torn Between Two Homes.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 My Roots.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34 Where Is My Right Place Professionally?.. . . . . . . . . 38 I Want to Finally Reclaim My Place.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40 Privately and Professionally?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41 How Does My Ancestors' Wartime Escape Affect Me and My Profession as a Real Estate Agent?.. . 42 Considerations for Buying, Selling, and Renting Property and Land.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 45 Buying A Property.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46 Ownership Conditions and Their Influence on a Property.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46 Why Can't I Find an Apartment?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47 Selling a House.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 My Mother's Beloved House .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 What's Next for Me After I Sell the House?.. . . . . . 50 Sell My Property - Yes or No?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 50 The Final Step to Selling A Property.. . . . . . . . . . . . . 52 What Does My Heart Want? .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53 House Sale Due to a Divorce .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 54 Rental .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 55 My Inherited Apartment Building Is Difficult to Rent Out .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 55 I Can't Find a Tenant for My Apartment.. . . . . . . . . . . 56 Why Can't I Rent Out My Practice Space?.. . . . . . . . . 57 Construction and Renovation. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59 Marital Dispute During the Construction Phase.. . 60 Genius Loci - The Spirit of a Place.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61 This »Cursed« Land.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 62 How Do I Build?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 63 My Newly Renovated Old House.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 64 The Construction Plan.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 66 The Architect's Design Resembles a Prison.. . . . . . 67 Why Do My Debts Feel Like such a Heavy Load?. 68 Living a Healthy, Happy, and Content Life at Home and at Work .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69 At Home .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 70 What Does Living in a Semi-Detached House Remind Me of?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 70 I Want to Establish Order and Feel at Home.. . . . . 71 Why Do I Feel So Lifeless and Worn Out in My House?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 73 I Don't Feel at Home.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 74 What Does This Painting Mean to Me?.. . . . . . . . . . 75 What Does the Chaos in My Home Office Have to Do with a Past Love Story?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 The Ongoing Disputes with the Landlords.. . . . . . . 79 Why Is My Neighbor Behaving so Strangely?.. . . . 80 At Work .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 82 I Want to Attract More Clients to My Practice.. . . . 82 What's Wrong with My Restaurant?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . 84 Why Doesn't the Restaurant Succeed Despite Its Good Location?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 85 What Is Getting in the Way of Success?.. . . . . . . . . . 87 What is the Source of all the Agitation in the Seminar Room?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89 What is Disrupting the Clarity in the Course Room?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 90 Physical Symptoms Associated with Places and Buildings.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 92 All The Staff Is Experiencing The Same Physical Symptoms.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 92 What Does the Site Have to Do with My Heart?.. 93 An Unusual Rate of Illness At The Kindergarten.. 95 The Inheritance.............................................. 97 Buying an Apartment with the Inheritance Money.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 98 Is My Inherited Small Property Cursed?.. . . . . . . . . . 99 Inheritance - Why Are There So Many Difficulties Selling This House?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 102 Special Places.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103 What Do Power Places Give Us?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 104 The Special Place.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 106 The Power of a Place.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 108 Sacrificial Places - The Call Of Ancient Knowledge. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 110 The Birthplace.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 112 The Past Events of a Place.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 116 Nature.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 What Does My Tree Want?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 118 The Walnut Tree. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119 Living Abroad.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121 How Do I Do Well Abroad?.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 122 Africa .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Mechanisms Of Transformation.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 Epilogue .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 Acknowledgements.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135 The Author. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 137 Other Publications by the Author.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 138